When you talk about leadership or a Manager you have a feel of someone with aggressiveness or kinda Boss’ attitude. But indeed it is the very same assertiveness that takes them far ahead when it comes to asking for what you need and what you need to get done. At the same time aggressiveness or being bossy pertains to doing or asking without regard for others or how it feels on them.
Building the right character and being assertive is key to be a Manager.
- Tell people what you need and let them do the same.
It’s as simple as it says. KISS – Keep it Straight and Simple. Do not Micromanage, just tell them what you want, and let them do it themselves. Never interfere in their thought or work process. - Give Specifics on the work
Specifics about the work always help than beating around the bush. Do not give them a chance to figure out by themselves by any ambiguous information. - Do not stress on one outcome (yours).
This is very usual with Micromanagers, who have set their minds on a kind of output or data. And if someone presents otherwise, they are upset. We need to understand that each person has their thought process, and visual presentation of data. If you have the right data, which they can express in alignment with your needs, accept it. - Do not put off others ideas
Appreciate others efforts. Even if the suggestions or perspectives do not match your, always feel free to brainstorm. Chances are that you have better ideas coming. - Get people to comment on how your needs affect them.
This is an inverse effect when you ask others to understand and think what do they gain out of what you delegate. People identify themselves as gaining something, and in case they are blunt, do let them know their options. - Be Calm and Patient as you ask.
Patience is a virtue, and always go by it. Calm is the environment, calmer will be the person you deal with. - Give others time to explain and assert.
Very much as suggested, Brain storming discussions have to happen. And so do you need to give time to others to explain and assert themselves. - Brief on what is needed ahead of discussion.
Talk and be specific on what is required, rather making people wait to hear the full discussion and understand the outcome.
Being assertive is not about behaving like a jerk. It’s about letting people know where you stand and what you need in a kind, direct and flexible way and then being willing to work with them to find resolutions that work for everyone. Being assertive allows you to express your views and also encourage others to do the same. What will you do to be more assertive and less aggressive?
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Hi Deepesh
The information above is quite accurate and practically monitored.
I would say that your perception of being kind and friendly to your subordinates is quite right as it would bring your colleagues and subordinates more related to you and you will be a real manager instead of the reel manager.
Ofcourse sometime People need to be strict but do remember that if something is not working today and efforts are not turning into goals as expected,their is always a room for improvement for everyone whether he is amnager or a team memeber.
In my opinion, a good manager is one who can see the human aspects in the relationship with a subordinate. The leader must also speak cylinder subjected to understand even their own personal problems that can affect productivity.
Surely the ultimate goal is always to achieve the results but these can only be achieved if you work in a team